Friday, February 11, 2005

Personals Experience

I had my first experience with an asshole through Yahoo Personals this week. I think that says something pretty cool about the whole internet dating thing, btw...I've been doing it for about 3 years (off and on) now, and this is the first time I've run into a complete asshole. Huh. Anyway...

So this guy writes to me last Thursday (the 3rd), and tells me all kinds of stuff about himself like where he went to school, and what he does now for a living, and what he likes to do in his spare time, and what he thinks his friends would say about his personality, and all that sort of shit. It was one of the longest initial notes I've received from a guy, and while it did seem sort of form-letterish, I was willing to give him the benefit of the doubt because he seemed serious and mature, and still like he had a fun side. (He's not the most handsome guy on the planet, but I'm not really one to judge that much until I actually meet someone in person. Unless, of course, there's absolutely no initial attraction at all through the picture, which happens now and then, and in those cases I'm very honest and tell a guy straight up that I don't think we'd be a good match.) So I decide to write him back...sort of a long note myself, giving him my basic run down about work, and where my family is at, and what I like to do, and I also mention that I like to drink (his profile says he doesn't drink at all), and would he have a problem dating a person that drinks alcohol? I just covered the initial bases, IMO. I wrote him that note last Friday during a lull at work.

And he doesn't write me back. Not at all. Not a simple, "Oh, sorry! I'm not interested after all," or a "Sorry, but the drinking thing is a deal-breaker,"...nothing. Which pisses me off. I mean, it's one thing for a guy that I've communicated with initially to not write me back at all...that I can understand a bit. But this guy wrote to ME first! And I wrote him a polite and friendly note back, and he sends me NOTHING in return? Totally bad internet dating etiquette.

So I decide to write him the following note yesterday afternoon:

"Being fairly new to the whole internet dating thing, you might not realize that it's actually quite rude to write a long message to a girl, who then replies back promptly and politely, and then to completely ignore her thereafter.

No need for a response to this. Just know that you can at least write to a person and tell them you're not interested. It's the polite thing to do. Especially when you were the one to initially show the interest in them.

Good luck in your search!"

Ok, it's not dripping in sweetness, but he needed to know that he was being rude. So I told him. And he writes me back (even though I told him not to worry about it...) the following two messages:

7:10 p.m.
"Thanks! I liked your message." (This, btw, is one of the "canned" responses that Yahoo offers you to be able to click on and send from a drop down menu...)

7:14 p.m.
"blah, blah, blah..."

Um, excuse me? Yeah, I'm not letting that kind of response go. Not in the cosmic mood I'm apparently supposed to be in right now (according to my horoscope...I'll put more in about this at the bottom of this post, so keep reading...), so I shoot him back the following note last night at about 9 p.m.:

"Ookaaayy. So you're either a total ass, or you're trying to be funny, and not being successful at it. I'm willing to bet it's the total ass thing.

I should've known better after reading your (apparently incredibly contrived and ingenuine) initial note to me, but I'm a nice person, and just didn't realize you might be an ass until several days had passed.

You might want to try growing up a little bit before you contact anyone else. Some people take the internet dating thing seriously, and actually want to meet cool people that they can get along with. Jerk."

I mean, what a total dillhole! Pissed me off...

I'm wanting to tell everyone off lately, I've found. Between my desire to tell my bartender friend that I don't want to hang out with her any more when she drinks, and my sudden impending need to tell Dave, to his face, what an ass I think he is and that I think he'd benefit greatly from a good amount of therapy, I'm confused. Why the sudden need to break it all down in such a harsh way to the people I've been hangning out with? (And apparently the ones I've never even met...) So my horoscope today says the following:

"You won't believe the things you'll be saying for the next couple of days -- not that you've ever really been shy to start with. But with the kind of astrological ammunition you'll be packing, you'd better pass out warnings...It seems that the heavens have decided to pass out coupons, redeemable toward a veritable arsenal of verbal weapons. Interestingly enough, the offer is only good for your sign. Needless to say, you should be very careful if you decide to accept the offer -- and even more careful when deciding where and when to put them into use. Basically, you'll have the verbal ability to decimate anyone who even mildly disagrees with you. It's up to you to draw the line where it should be drawn."

Shit. Maybe I should hole myself up in my house this weekend, and disconnect my phone. I mean, having "...the verbal ability to decimate anyone who even mildly disagrees with [me]" isn't a good thing, in my book.

Could be kind of therapeutic, though.

I might need to find new friends after this weekend is over. We'll see. :P

20 comments:

FaithsTwin said...

OMG- this is sooooo not good for Sean. I've been rather pissy lately anyway, what with PMS and this doctor bullshit I've been dealing with. At least the Kick Ass New Job has had my spirits up.

But dayum. I guess I should bite my tongue if he pisses me off, eh?

Oh and about that dude? What a prick! I'm glad you told him he was rude. What an asshat!

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