Monday, March 07, 2016

We aren't all experts, people. (Read: You there. YOU, in particular, are talking out your ass. Stop it.)

So I gave up Facebook as an app on my phone a few weeks back, and it's been really nice for me, I think. A nice change. I'm not constantly checking for new statuses while I do other things. I'm not getting as mad about stupid things that have no impact on my life whatsoever. 

I might be replacing my original time-wasting searches on FB with time-wasting searches on things like Pinterest and Yahoo news, but who's keeping track, right? 

I spent a little bit too much time catching up on Facebook yesterday, after several days of not having checked it at all. I saw that my niece has a lovely new haircut. And my friend Lyn found a mint Harry Connick Jr "We Are in Love" record somewhere, and it made me all nostalgic and jealous. 

And then I stumbled across a little meme on my friend Joe's feed that said something about how Romeo & Juliet wasn't a love story, but rather a quick relationship between a 13 year old and a 17 year old that caused 6 deaths. It was silly, and gave me a giggle.

But then I made the mistake of reading the comments below the original post. ::sigh:: And the one that said, "I think this is a disgusting story to be held in such high esteem in the literary world" was apparently over my "ignore me, and move on!" line. 

Me: It's a fictional story. 
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(I was an English Lit major, and my take away from studying Romeo & Juliet, in addition to other Shakespearean plays and poems, was about the writing, the development of story, and the language usage. We were left to our own devices to decide whether the topic was "disgusting" or not.)

Her:  I've never thought for one minute it was a true story. Please.

Me: I don't get your point about it being held in "high esteem", is all. We didn't study it because it was a great lesson of true love that we should all aspire to. We studied it because Shakespeare is a great writer. It's like saying that Poe stories shouldn't be held in high esteem because they're about death and scary things and poisoning people for fun. But his stories are legendary for a reason: because he's a wonderful writer. And his stories should be studied by students of all ages for reasons above and beyond just the content of the writing.

She didn't reply to that, which is helpful. I hope she doesn't. I already got sucked into the inflammatory language of her original opinion. Although I strongly disagree with her gentle suggestion that Romeo & Juliet is a disgusting story, what does it matter to me that she thinks that? 

Maybe she has kids that she's tainting with that kind of opinion. 

Yeah, but so what? 

This is the pitfall of Facebook for me. This is the pitfall of Facebook for lots of people, really. But, again, I don't really care about anything other than myself in this assessment. Literally everyone else on the planet can go right ahead and debate politics, TV show content, various topics of interest until they are blue in the entire body. If that makes y'all happy, then you do you. 

The aggravation it causes me is disturbing, and while little interactions like the one mentioned above aren't, in and of themselves, a huge issue, they snowball. And pretty soon, I'm seething over other things that have nothing to do with these friends/family/strangers on Facebook, and my outlook on people in general reaches a critical stage that makes me want to retreat to my basement for the foreseeable future where I can do things like watch mindless TV, read lovely books, and even walk on my treadmill while watching mindless TV and reading lovely books.

I don't think social media is for me. There are benefits to it, for sure. But my life is so much more peaceful without it.